Bring In clarity about Love, Marriage and 
Elders' Role 

Clarity about Role of Parents in selection of spouse & our sense of Respect for them: 

Telling you frankly, we are not reasonable in many issues like 'Kundli Matching' etc. We need to review our beliefs about our Respect for Parents. 

· We do not know whom to regard in what subject. 

· We don't mind giving our head in the hands of a filthy barber..but we don't allow shaking hands with opposite gender..(its true about Indians)..

· We rely on an unknown, uneducated..addicted..(some times even drunken) driver of a public bus but we don't rely on God....

· It is a pity that our elders are hypocritical in many ways.. they boast about our great cultural wisdom.. but just for the sake of boasting..

· Our elders keep worshiping Radha-Krishna..but they are harsh with lovers..

· Their notions are not clear about Shastras..

· As regards 'Kundli Matching'; they hardly know astrology but blindly go with Kundli matching which is like exploring the world with the help of 16th century map.

· Most elders gave up education immediately upon their getting employment or marriage.

It would be worth to ask following questions frankly :

· Do parents know the characteristics of a spouse that would be more suitable for you ?

· Do they have knowledge and skill to analyze personality traits?

· Do they really know what would be the challenges for a couple in the next 50 years?

· Do they keep themselves updated with the societal developments in the world?

You will agree that a statement like 'Experience of office work' is not a complete. A pantry boy will not have experience of communication even if he works for 30 years in a business workplace.

· Similarly, assess the experience of your parents.

· They have lived a longer, true, but how long exposure they have in issues like finding suitable match for their children?

· How good are they at assessment of human beings?

· Their experience in this regard can be considered only if you have 3-4 elder siblings and your parents could successfully examine suitable spouse for them.

· What will happen if you marry with the boy without the approval of parents?

· Do you think you will remain a good child only if you marry as per their wish?

· What do you think are the duties of a child towards parents?

· Do you think that there won't be any avenues to show love, affection and respect for your elders if you miss to show the same through marriage as desired by them?

· Would you take your Dad to a surgeon if he develops cataracts in his eyes? Or would you pamper him with cataracts? (blind faith in shastras is a kind of cataract.

Know that every couple, whatsoever way they present themselves, have ups-n-downs in their lives. This is true for all, whether their Kundli matched or miss-matched..! Because Life is Dynamic. Being an astrologer myself, I have not undertaken kundli matching for my children. They have married with their loved ones. Needless to mention: 'They are happy'. 

Know that there is nothing like selection of a spouse - only those who have tremendous amount of karmic dues, fits into wedlock. So, after putting all, more than due degree of efforts from you; if it doesn't click, you should believe that your rinanubandh was just to this limit, give it up and move on. 

Even after reading this article, at times people request me for undertaking Kundli Matching. Please Note:
I do not entertain such requests.
Please read this article carefully. I do not support 'Kundli Matching'. Its a complete futile exercise.
The purpose of this article is to provide some arguments to the lovers as they face the obstacle of Kundli Miss-matching.